Finding The Key...That Fits Your Lock.

"There are millions of men and women, and each one is unique. Some will make a good match for you, and some won't make a good match at all.  You can love everyone; but to deal with a person on an everyday basis, you will need someone more closely aligned to you.  That person doesn't need to be exactly like you; the two of you only need to be like a key in the lock - a match that works."  from the book, The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

Interesting don't you think?  I am almost done this wonderful book on the art of relationships, and have come away with so much.  In my last post, I was all ready to open my heart to V...but when the time came, the moment wasn't right...but the feelings are there, for both of us, sometimes the unspoken is louder than the spoken.  I will let you know when the "three words, eight letters" are spoken that you can be sure of. 

What does it mean to find the key that fits your lock?  Not the key to your heart, because your heart should always be open,because you should love yourself more than anything...because that enables you to love others. The heart should not be locked, no matter how many times it has been broken, or mended...the more open you are, the more love you will receive. 

I know what I want and I know myself and what I value and I am able to take care of my half of any relationship I have, be it as a daughter, sister, aunt, friend, cousin, girlfriend etc...because I am not looking for someone to save me, work out my problems, do things for me that I can do for myself..I am looking for someone to love me, just the way that I am.  When you love someone like that, and not want to change them...that is finding the key to your lock.  Fitting together like a key and lock, is knowing when to give space, letting the other person be alone or quite when they need to be, even if your full of happiness, holding them or just being there, rocking back and forth on a swing holding hands...just to let them feel you close to them...until their happiness returns. 

I know that in our moments of weakness we become empowered, in moments of darkness, the light appears, in moments of sadness, happiness shines through the light of your love ones eyes...and in a moment when your not looking...the key for your lock...appears.

Everyday, V and I talk about how are days at work or in general were, everyday, I see has much as we are different, we are the same, I respect him, he respects me...I don't have a need to know where he is every second of the day, or be with him every single day...and nor does he with me...because we know that if we do see each other everyday, it is because we are happy and we do it because we want to ...not because we feel we have too. 

Last night I shared the opening quote with V ....as he had his arms around me, I said.." your the key for my lock.." he looked and me, smiled and said..." you have that wrong Amore...you are the lock for my key..."

xoxo
BT&HB