I tell everyone this. All of my friends, co-workers, boyfriends, family...strangers, everyone. Why? Because it shouldn't be.
I have to admit, I thought I was in love with my ex-boyfriend...I see now, that I had a need for love, because I didn't love myself. I thought that what he gave me was love..it wasn't, far from it. I actually was shocked when I did tell him that I loved him ( after many months of dating) his response, "what is love??" mind you, I did tell him that he didn't have to answer...but still, he said he liked me - are you serious? That blows, really blows.
Many of us struggle within our relationships, we try to be the person that our beloved wants us to be, we talk, map out a strategy on how to impress, keep, get back, fight for...but for what? When your with someone, a relationship takes work, but loving someone shouldn't..plain and simple. I witnessed this in it's truest form with my dear friends in Florence, Italy. L and S are a couple that shows the beauty of love and being in love and there for the other...you truly can overcome anything. When I was visiting , L ( my friend's husband), would look at S with pure love and enchantment ...and she would return the same look. They had their struggles and hard times, but their love is easy, beautiful and based on pure intentions, honesty, faith, trust and most of all respect. It takes two people like them to show someone like me, that there is good and great love out there for everyone.
While I was visiting them a couple of years ago...they use to say to each other ..." oh, amore mio.." I was like, " oh, people please .." and we would all laugh. V called me amore a couple of weeks ago ...for as much as he is sometimes so quite ( where I am the loud one...he told me the two things that he liked best about me when we met, was my hair, and my voice...my voice stirred him the first time he heard it...even before he laid eyes on me..) - who says that?
V told me a bit about his ex, how he wanted to be a policeman to get her back..I know how that is wanting to do anything to get the person you felt was your true love back. He came to realize himself , two weeks before writing the exam, that he was doing it for the wrong reason. I told him.." I understand what your saying...because I have done the same...but the ones that we have to fight to get back or keep, are the ones that are not worth fighting for..". I then asked him if he is happy where he is in his life right now, his response was quick.." very happy, and happy to have you in my life..".
I use to watch L look at my friend S ...and didn't understand how a man could look at a woman that way...but now I do, because it is the same look that I see, when V looks at me.
S and L...thank you for being my inspiration for this post ...you both mean the world to me..and I hope that one day, my love and V's will be half as beautiful as yours....ti amo.
xoxo
BT&HB
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