Evny...the Destroyer of Self-Esteem

 " Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others.  He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind".  Buddha

"Envy comes from people's ignorance of, or lack of belief in, their own gifts". ~ Jean Vanier

 

" God's truth judges created things out of love, the Satan's truth judges them out of envy and hatred". ~ Dietrich Bonhoeffer  

Envy, green-eyed monster, one of the seven deadly sins, evil eye call it what you like, either way, it is truly deadly, to the body and mind.  Last week I came face to face with envy with no one other than my boss...and that was something I always suspected, but never thought in a million years she would actually be envious of me.  

I don't envy anyone, I never did.  Sure, I would say off hand, I loved that girl's bag or shoes, and I would love to buy them....but never,ever,did I say I wanted to be that person.  I don't know, to me it is just foolish and a waste of energy to spend your time wanting what other people have, what about what you have and what you want?  Do you know what that is?  That is where self-esteem comes in.  If you have low self-esteem, you tend to be more jealous and envious of others, because you are not happy with yourself.  You wished you were the rich guy or girl, the one that makes friends easily, the one that always gets praised at work...the one that nothing ever seems to go wrong for them.  We all can have that in our lives, if we just believe in ourselves.  The worst type of green-eyed monster is the one that make a mockery of your life, makes fun of how you choose to live it and makes you think that maybe your not good enough.  Those are the people that you should steer clear of.  In my case, it is a bit hard, since I have to work daily with my boss....but that day everything became crystal clear.....it is not me, like I once thought...but her.  Her jealousy of how close my family is, how I chose to still live at home and be in the circle of love and compassion, how I have a passion for treating others with respect and love, and how easily everyone likes to be around me...tough for you, if she took off her blinders, she would see, her life is what she made it...and only she can change it.  I cried that night after meditating, and vowed never to allow her or anyone to make me feel like my life is less, because of how I chose to live it.


Envy is worst than hate...truly it is.    Don't envy others, never think or speak ill of someone else's choice in life, because karma is a bitch, and it will come back to bite you in the ass.  

I leave you with wise words spoken by my  mother less than a week ago...she said, " it is not a sin what you put in your mouth...but a sin what comes out of it".  

xoxo
BT&HB