Positive vs Negative

  "Positive feelings invite intimacy and engagement.  Negative feelings invite isolation and alienation."   Joan Borysenko,Ph.D. - from Minding the Body, Mending the Mind

As 2010 was coming to a close, I took a long hard look at my life.  For the most part, I struggled with the same things that many have struggled with since for as long as we can remember, I have been fortunate, lucky, grateful, thankful, blessed and strong.  But I have also, loved and lost, been laughed at, left out, put down, knocked out, frowned upon and belittled.  

One thing that I always seemed to have no matter if I faced an angel or a devil, was the power of positive thought.  Don't get me wrong, my positive thoughts were not always very powerful ( sometimes they were, I just wasn't ready to hear them).   Someone once told me, " God took a gift from you, but gave you another, don't waste it.."  I had no idea what that man meant at the time, but the more I slipped into the pit of hell - the more I felt protected.  That made me see people for who they truly are, and the more I thought more positively, the better off I was. 

I use to moan about not having the perfect body, not enough money, no respect at work, friends who constantly used me, family that made me feel like a poor relation...until one day I realized that it was my thoughts that drew the bad people and all those things to me.  The battle is not with the outside world it is within you.  The hardest person to say I love you too, is yourself.  If you think and speak positive, only good will come.  Think about how when you are negative about something, everything looks negative, the situation never gets better.  But when you choose to think and speak with happy and positive thoughts and words...your world does become a whole lot better. 

In my life, I have come across a whole world full of people, some are the best people you could ever encounter, and some, not so much.  The difference is in there thinking, some would bitch about the same thing, over and over ( until I could no longer stand to be around them), and the others, would always say, if it is God's will, and see the good in even the worst situations.  My mother told me a couple of years ago, that during a very dark time in my life when I was in an abusive relationship  ( my positive thoughts were turned off at that time..) that when she didn't know how else to help me, she prayed to God and said, " I leave her in your hands.." to this day, that still makes me cry with the beauty of faith that my mother has in God.  When your child is suffering, and there is nothing left to do, you place your positive trust in God. 

So, we are now in month two of 2011, I am in a very positive place right now with myself, I love life & me, am grateful for everyday, I think positive thoughts and things that make me feel good about myself.  I have set myself goals, and I know that I can do it, because nothing can knock down the power of a positive thought. 

Ask yourself ....
Who are we and why are we here?  What's the definition of a life well lived??  Are you answers positive or negative??...the choice is up to you, make it the right one. 

 xoxo
BT&HB